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Today I've been thinking about love....Danas sam razmišljala o ljubavi....


Today I've been thinking about love a lot. I've been thinking how it is probably the most misused word ever.  It is highly probably that all of us misused it at least a number of times. We use this word when we feel that we're entitled to something or someone. We use this word when we want to say that something or someone makes us feel good. We use it to say we need or want something or someone. We use it all the wrong ways sometimes. Perhaps that's how it must be until we learn to use it the right way. Sometimes love is the wrong word to use, but at times it might be the only thing we got.  Love is a word that has its own power. People respond to it. All the same, it is a tricky word to use. Using this word can sometimes mean you're taking the easier way. Preciously because there is magic in this word, it can backfire. You might say that there are many kinds of love and that is certainly true. Still, that doesn't change the fact that word love is often used as a tool of emotional manipulation.


Something tells me that we don't use 'love' that often to express the fact that our very being is intricately connected with another human being. That our personal happiness may depend entirely on somebody's else happiness. Why don't we? Perhaps because it is a scary thing to admit. For what it means to truly love? One of my favourite authors (that would be Robert A. Heinlein) gave his definition of it, and I always held it near my heart: love is a condition is which another person happiness is essential to your own. It sounds drastic, but I think it's as close to the truth as anyone got. I think that at its core, love is a pretty radical and drastic feeling. Love may be the most used and perhaps even the most misused word ever, but funny thing is...when someone loves us, we know it. It is obvious. Words are not needed. Deep down we know whether we're loved or not.

Danas sam puno razmišljala o ljubavi. To je vjerojatno najviše zloupotrijebljena riječ svih vremena. Svi smo je mi vjerovatno krivo koristili određen broj puta. Koristimo ovu riječ kada osjećamo da imamo pravo na nešto ili nekoga. Koristimo ovu riječ kako bismo rekli da nas netko ili nešto usrećuje. Koristimo ju da kažemo da trebamo ili želimo nekoga ili nešto. Koristimo je na sve krive načine ponekad i možda tako mora biti dok je ne budemo koristili na pravi način. Ponekad je ljubav kriva riječ za upotrijebiti, ali ponekad je ona sve što imamo. Ljubav je riječ koja ima svoju vlastitu moć. Ljudi reagiraju na nju. U isto vrijeme, to može biti zafrkana riječ za upotrijebiti. Korištenje ove riječi može ponekad značiti da ste išli lakšim putem. Baš zato jer ima čarolije u ovoj riječi, ona vam se može odbiti od glave. Moglo bi se reći da ima puno različitih vrsta ljubavi i to je svakako istina. Ipak, to ne mijenja činjenicu da se riječ ljubav često koristi kao oružje emotivne manipulacije. 


Nešto mi govori da ne  koristimo ovu riječ ljubav tako često da bismo izrazili činjenicu da je naše biće blisko povezano s drugim bićem. Da naša osobna sreća može ovisiti posve o tuđoj sreći. Zašto ne? Zato jer je to zastrašujuće za priznati. Što znači doista voljeti? Jedan od mojih najdražih pisaca (to bi bio Robert A. Heinlein) dao je svoju definiciju, a uvijek mi je bila bliska srcu: ljubav je stanje u kojem je sreća druge osobe nužna za našu vlastitu. Zvuči drastično, ali mislim da je najbliskije istini što je itko došao. Mislim da je u svojoj jezgri, ljubav poprilično radikalan i drastičan osjećan. Možda je ljubav najkorištenija, pa čak i najviše zloupotrijebljavana riječ, ali smiješna stvar je...kada nas netko voli, to znamo. Očito je. Riječi nisu potrebne. Iznutra znamo jesmo ili nismo voljeni. 


































Slikovni rezultat za modaodaradosti grape leaves










Slikovni rezultat za modaodaradosti flowers spring











Slikovni rezultat za modaodaradosti flowers spring



Outfit one (suit/bag: not branded, poloshirt: Amadeus, heels: peko) , location: Međugorje, BIH
Outfit two (dress: not branded, jeggings: old, heels/socks: old), location: Mostar, BIH 







Comments

  1. Interessanti le tue considerazioni sull'amore cara, sicuramente è una parola che implica una vastità di significati, spesso diversi da quelli a cui ci riferiamo quotidianamente..
    E belle anche le tue foto!
    Un bacione :*
    www.milleunrossetto.blogspot.it

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    1. grazie....si, e una parola che significa tante cose...

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  2. I am not sure if I agree with you about the subject or not.....as you said, it's a tricky business. Love both looks of you, the lady boss suits you very well and it's so pretty elegant but the playful girly one is the winner. And I do love love love your wavy hair here.
    hugs
    Lenya
    Damsel In Distress

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    1. tricky business indeed...sometimes I feel like it is a good word to use even when we aren't too sure should we use it but at times I'm not so sure. I'm undecided on this topic too.

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  3. That corporate look is the bomb!
    http://dimplekhadi.blogspot.com/2017/04/have-you-ever-been-disappointed-with.html

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  4. It's very interesting!
    Excellent post and wonderful pictures!
    Have a nice day!
    www.recklessdiary.ru

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  5. I think the word love is both misused and overused as well and I would agree that it probably is used because it is both compelling and it's a word that is often at the top of our minds. In any case you've given me pause as to how I choose to use it and I think I need to step back and analyze that now. I hope your hand is feeling better.

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  6. I completely agree with you. Love is an overused word and not always meant when said either. I think we should be more careful when using it really. You look gorgeous in both of these looks. So gorgeous you are. Happy Friday doll xx

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  7. Slažem se, ljubav je riječ koja se prečesto koristi na krive načine i samim time joj se oduzima sva magija koju posjeduje. Jako mi se sviđa ona definicija pojma jer zaista mislim da je istinita i dugo vremena mi je trebalo da to shvatim. I potpisujem ovaj zadnji dio - kad smo voljeni, to se zna. Vidi. Osjeti. Riječima se često znamo razbacivati pa onda gube na težini (jedna sam od onih koji mrze čuti stalno 'volim te, volim te, volim te' - djela su puno važnija od nečega što se prejednostavno može izgovoriti), ali ljubav se ne može sakriti.

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    1. slažem se, ponekad se to volim te pretvori u nekakvo samodokazivanje, a to mi se ne sviđa. Naravno ponekad je stvarno lijepo čuti kad ti netko kaže da te voli, ali kao što kažu postoji vrijeme i mjesto za sve.

      Ljubav se ne može sakriti...pa joj ponekad i nisu potrebne riječi. Meni je odlična ona definicija od Marije Jurić Zagorke, ona je rekla da se samo dvije stvari ne mogu sakriti, kašalj i ljubav. :)

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  8. It's a tricky word to use, indeed :)
    Love to see you in military green!

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  9. I love both of these looks while one is elegant and chic the other is fun and playful.

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  10. Great post dear!

    http://iameleine.blogspot.com/

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  11. Trovo interessante il tuo punto di vista sull'amore e mi trovo d'accordo con te.
    Comunque sei bellissima Ivana, adoro come ti stanno i capelli mossi!

    Shopping Girls

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  12. bellissimi entrambi, il 1° molto elegante e il 2° molto glam
    nuovo outfit sul mio blog
    come abbinare i pantaloni culotte
    un bacione

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  13. Molto profonde le tue riflessioni sull'amore Ivana e bellissimi entrambi i tuoi look, stai davvero bene, adoro sia il primo più serio che il secondo più flirty :) Baci

    Fashion and Cookies - fashion & beauty blog

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  14. Stunning shots & you look so relaxed, babe! xoxo

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  15. You are a beautiful philosopher, Ivana! Love the photos of you visiting the church, and especially that happy portrait of you at home!

    I used to feel self-conscious about the word "love" when I was younger. It wasn't very common to say "I love you" where I grew up. We are strong Siberian people, we don't like to demonstrate our vulnerability. I am very different now. I say "I love you" often and to many people. Love is so much more than "falling in love", than "brother's love", "spouse love" and even parental love. Love is our essence, love is what we feel when we feel extremely connected and alive. Love is inside of us - not in the "object"...

    So I will tell you just one more thing. I love you! <3 :)

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    1. You brought a smile to my face. I love you too, my sweet friend.

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  16. gosh, i love your first outfit a lot!!! this looks for me like a business style - i like this style! these pics at this huge buildling are gorgeous my dear!

    and what the hell...are you crazy to wear these elegant pink heels in the garden??? interesting to see a socks-heel-combo...;-)

    is this a longshirt or a short dress? i like it anyway!

    great post Ivana!!!

    Jennifer
    http://jennifer-femininundmodisch.blogspot.de/2017/04/unterwegs-verschneites-osterfest-2017.html

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    1. it is a short dress, a bit too short on me, so that is why I wore it with jeggings.

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    2. ahhh. a few days ago a buy also a clothing piece like that, but i dont know: should i wear this as a short dress or as a longshirt??? i will show it in the next weeks on my blog. in the meantime i took some combos and i think it will works bothways.

      bye
      Jennifer

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    3. sorry i forgotten one tinhg: i dont think this dress is too short for you. in my opinion it has the right size - legwise.

      you can it cleary wearing with skin-colored tights or maybe opaque tights. belive me, this will work!!!

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