Today I've been thinking about love....Danas sam razmišljala o ljubavi....

Today I've been thinking about love a lot. I've been thinking how it is probably the most misused word ever.  It is highly probably that all of us misused it at least a number of times. We use this word when we feel that we're entitled to something or someone. We use this word when we want to say that something or someone makes us feel good. We use it to say we need or want something or someone. We use it all the wrong ways sometimes. Perhaps that's how it must be until we learn to use it the right way. Sometimes love is the wrong word to use, but at times it might be the only thing we got.  Love is a word that has its own power. People respond to it. All the same, it is a tricky word to use. Using this word can sometimes mean you're taking the easier way. Preciously because there is magic in this word, it can backfire. You might say that there are many kinds of love and that is certainly true. Still, that doesn't change the fact that word love is often used as a tool of emotional manipulation.

Something tells me that we don't use 'love' that often to express the fact that our very being is intricately connected with another human being. That our personal happiness may depend entirely on somebody's else happiness. Why don't we? Perhaps because it is a scary thing to admit. For what it means to truly love? One of my favourite authors (that would be Robert A. Heinlein) gave his definition of it, and I always held it near my heart: love is a condition is which another person happiness is essential to your own. It sounds drastic, but I think it's as close to the truth as anyone got. I think that at its core, love is a pretty radical and drastic feeling. Love may be the most used and perhaps even the most misused word ever, but funny thing is...when someone loves us, we know it. It is obvious. Words are not needed. Deep down we know whether we're loved or not.

Danas sam puno razmišljala o ljubavi. To je vjerojatno najviše zloupotrijebljena riječ svih vremena. Svi smo je mi vjerovatno krivo koristili određen broj puta. Koristimo ovu riječ kada osjećamo da imamo pravo na nešto ili nekoga. Koristimo ovu riječ kako bismo rekli da nas netko ili nešto usrećuje. Koristimo ju da kažemo da trebamo ili želimo nekoga ili nešto. Koristimo je na sve krive načine ponekad i možda tako mora biti dok je ne budemo koristili na pravi način. Ponekad je ljubav kriva riječ za upotrijebiti, ali ponekad je ona sve što imamo. Ljubav je riječ koja ima svoju vlastitu moć. Ljudi reagiraju na nju. U isto vrijeme, to može biti zafrkana riječ za upotrijebiti. Korištenje ove riječi može ponekad značiti da ste išli lakšim putem. Baš zato jer ima čarolije u ovoj riječi, ona vam se može odbiti od glave. Moglo bi se reći da ima puno različitih vrsta ljubavi i to je svakako istina. Ipak, to ne mijenja činjenicu da se riječ ljubav često koristi kao oružje emotivne manipulacije. 

Nešto mi govori da ne  koristimo ovu riječ ljubav tako često da bismo izrazili činjenicu da je naše biće blisko povezano s drugim bićem. Da naša osobna sreća može ovisiti posve o tuđoj sreći. Zašto ne? Zato jer je to zastrašujuće za priznati. Što znači doista voljeti? Jedan od mojih najdražih pisaca (to bi bio Robert A. Heinlein) dao je svoju definiciju, a uvijek mi je bila bliska srcu: ljubav je stanje u kojem je sreća druge osobe nužna za našu vlastitu. Zvuči drastično, ali mislim da je najbliskije istini što je itko došao. Mislim da je u svojoj jezgri, ljubav poprilično radikalan i drastičan osjećan. Možda je ljubav najkorištenija, pa čak i najviše zloupotrijebljavana riječ, ali smiješna stvar je...kada nas netko voli, to znamo. Očito je. Riječi nisu potrebne. Iznutra znamo jesmo ili nismo voljeni. 

Outfit one (suit/bag: not branded, poloshirt: Amadeus, heels: peko) , location: Međugorje, BIH

Outfit two (dress: not branded, jeggings: old, heels/socks: old), location: Mostar, BIH 

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