Asking the right kind of questions (it is time for a body perception talk) / Pitanje pravih pitanja (vrijeme je za priču o percepciji tijela)
All those movements for body positive perception may actually be needed. On the other hand, I do think we shouldn't define ourselves by the way we look. I felt like a lot of stuff that was being called body positive was in fact body obsessed. So, I wasn't sure what to think when it comes to the need to talk about body perception. It is pretty obvious why we should never ever ever define ourselves solely on a basis of certain physical characters- for start it is incredibly limiting. We're more than bodies, everyone should be able to agree. That's all fine as a statement but I realized I can't just leave it at that. Because there were all these issues my mind kept referring me back to.
As much as I believe that we're often asking the wrong kind of questions and that we primarily need to identify ourselves as complex creatures that have intellectual, emotional and creative needs, I've grown to realize that we do need to talk about body perception. We need to start asking the right kind of questions. Understanding that this is a complex question is a good place to start. If people need to do whatever they need to do to accept their bodies, let them do it. I mean as long as what they are doing is legal and they are not harming anyone else. Let's be a bit more understanding towards each other and a bit less judgmental. Let's be wise enough to realize that the connections between our body and our personality are often quite complex and are not something that can easily be ignored.
Today I'm sharing some of those thoughts and questions that have been on my mind lately. So, here is a quick list of questions and answers, that will be followed by a longer essay in which I plan to clarify my present thoughts concerning this topic. The essay part will be very long, so to get the main points, you can read the pink part. (In the meantime I elaborated on the pink part, so I don't know what to say to you now because since the pink text has been updated it is quite long now. If you want a very quick summary it would sound something like this: 'It is never alright to criticize anyone's body (including your own). Your body is the only one you're going to get, so take care of it but don't forget there are others things in this world apart from that '. That was pretty short, wasn't it? Don't say I can't summarize things.:)
To be frank, I think that many people went out their own frustrations in disguise of 'trying to help'. People body shame slim and skinny people on daily basis, telling them they need to put on weight or telling them they look anorexic. You can see this on the example of perfectly healthy people who happen to be naturally thin. Often they're criticized for promoting anorexia and so on. Are people who are criticized them really concerned for their health or they're just venting out their frustrations? Most likely the latter. The same applies to fat shaming that is also very present, especially in the media. Often people whose weight is normal and whose IBM is perfectly healthy are being called fat and 'bad role-models'. Many women starve themselves and cause themselves health problems because they falsely believe they're overweight. Not having a tie gap doesn't mean you're overweight, ladies. Having hips is normal. Most women have them. I don't see why hips are suddenly a health hazard. Women whose body types create an illusion of 'fullness' and 'roundness' are constantly being questioned for what they eat and how they behave. This situation is really getting out of control. As much as I do feel there is too much emphasis put on body perception these days, I'm afraid it is being talk about in all the wrong ways. That basically means we don't have enough body perception talk. Body positive movements are great, but we really need to really get to the core of this problem.
All drawings (in case you couldn't tell) are mine. Medium: markers on paper.